Bryan Cafferky
My name is Bryan Cafferky
Please call me at: 909-328-6179


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I’m committed to helping you get more of what you want out of life and less of what you don’t. My goal is to work closely with you to deeply understand you and then empower you (and your family) to live life to the fullest.

I love working with people just like you (adults, teens, children, couples and families) and understanding what matters most to you. I do this by creating safe and encouraging spaces where you can learn healthy responses that allow you to better cope with life’s challenges and disappointments. I believe that one of the most rewarding things in life is learning what causes our typical “knee-jerk reactions” and “go to” coping strategies. Then we are able to replace those with carefully-considered and healthy ways of handling emotional and/or relational distress.

I am also dedicated to working with individuals and
families who are going through tough life experiences, particularly trauma. Traumatic events—such as abuse, rape, or witnessing violence—affect us on a deeply personal level, and they also affect our family relationships. Many individuals living with trauma find themselves not only struggling to live well from day to day, but also find themselves struggling to "be there" for their loved ones. How we deal with pain and disappointment can make it challenging to connect with others in a confident, trusting, and loving way. In fact, individuals living with a loved one who has experienced trauma can find themselves feeling down, stressed, and frustrated by not knowing what to do or how to help. I am honored to join you (and your family) on your journey to discover inner strengths, deepen your resilience, and walk a new path to reclaim a fuller life.

I also am adept at helping "nice girls" and "nice guys" (also known as “people pleasers”) reclaim their backbone. Perhaps you always put others first, and sacrifice your own well-being. You're burned out and running on empty. You often worry what others think and you hate saying no. You’re a quintessential, polite little church mouse. Sound familiar? As hard as things may be right now, I want you to know: I’ve been there, and it doesn't have to be this way! I’m here to help. We can work together to explore why this has been happening and then find sensible ways for you to quickly
recover your power and voice. As you regain your balance and integrity, I think you’ll rediscover that you intuitively know the life you were meant to live.

If you are struggling with
anxiety or depression, I will help you to sift through the details and get to the heart of the matter. Together we will identify the thoughts, experiences, and behaviors that seem to perpetuate your feelings of insecurity, anger, sadness, anxiety, shame, or disconnect. We will work together to help you experience an increase in self-awareness, identify and establish healthy boundaries, practice how to effectively shift away from destructive thoughts and behaviors, and bolster your self-confidence so that you can redirect your life trajectory into a more “preferred” way of being.

My approach to couples therapy is an unguarded, authentic mix of humor and honesty. While there is no such thing as a
perfect marriage, there are emotional and behavioral skills essential to having a safe and fulfilling relationship. When couples work with me, counseling focuses on creating a safe space for first understanding and validating each partner’s pain, experience, and perspective. We will collaborate to identify the underlying needs that often drive unproductive arguments. We will untangle some of unhelpful patterns in behavior, which keep you separated from the life and love you desire. Then we will get real practical: We’ll practice evidenced-based skills to help you clearly communicate your needs in the relationship, in a way that has been shown to be best understood by your spouse.

I hope you will allow me to help you work through the challenges that are in front of you. I would love to help you put those challenges where they belong, behind you. Contact me here.

Sincerely,
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CALL:
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APPOINTMENT:
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Education
Ph.D. Marriage and Family Therapy, Kansas State University
M.S. Applied Child and Family Studies, Northern Illinois University
 • Specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy
M.Div. Pastoral Concentration in Family Life, Andrews University
B.S. Biblical Languages & B.S. Theology, Walla Walla University

Skills and Qualifications
Marriage and Family Therapy Intern (California) #IMF95638 (2016-current)
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (Kansas) #2463 (2013-current)
Certified Family Life Educator (2014-current)
Safe Zone Ally (2013-current)
Certified SYMBIS Marriage Facilitator (2017)
Trauma Resiliency Model: Part 2 (2016)
Trauma Resiliency Model: Part 1 (2016)
Director of Mental Health at Community Health Ministries (Wamego, KS; 2014-2015)
Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR): Part 1 (2014)
Discernment Counseling for Couples Considering Divorce (2013)
Pragmatic Experiential Therapy Method for Improving Couples’ Relationships (PET-C): (2011)
Improvisational Theater Training: 100-500 level classes, Unexpected Productions (Seattle, WA; 2004-2006)

Professional Affiliations
Assistant Professor, Counseling and Family Sciences, School of Behavioral Health; Loma Linda University (2015 – current)
American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT; 2012-current)
National Council on Family Relations (NCFR; 2013-current)
California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT; 2015-current)

Papers and Presentations
Multiple peer-reviewed presentations (more info available upon request)
Multiple peer-reviewed publications (more info available upon request)
Weekend Retreats/Presentations for churches about Abraham’s family behaviors, attitudes, and anxiety which was passed down from generation to generation

Honors
AAMFT Research and Education Dissertation Award (2016)
AAMFT Conference Cutting Edge Research Poster Award (2013, 2014, & 2015)
University Distinguished Professors Graduate Student Award, Kansas State University (2015)