Good premarital counseling helps a marriage like solid coaching and training helps a professional athlete.
Please allow us to explain…
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We don't know of any professional athletes who were born ready to compete. Don't get us wrong, we realize that most of them have God-given gifts and abilities that they use to the benefit of their sport every day, but most of them had to learn HOW to use their gifts and abilities from someone who understood what it would take to maximize their potential. This would be someone who fully understands how to work with that particular person and their particular strengths and weaknesses.
A great coach can see these abilities and motivate their players to new levels of play. We've all seen those kinds of relationships between a coach and an athlete. When it happens, it's pure magic.
Premarital counseling can be a lot like that. You have God-given abilities and gifts and so does your future spouse. But both of you also have shortcomings. How can you get all of these factors to work together for a lifetime of harmony? How can you maximize any potential you have together while minimizing anything that could get in the way of your success as a couple?
In the hands of a gifted premarital counselor, finding your sweet spot as a couple can feel like magic!
Here are some of the marriage myths that you can overcome through premarital counseling:
- There are things about your future spouse that will change once you get married.
- You think that once you are married, those annoying habits won't bother you any more.
- You think you've already got it all figured out.
- You think it will all work out just fine as long as your spouse does things your way.
You've put a lot into this relationship so far and you've put a lot into your wedding. Why wouldn't you take a little time to learn how to:
- Communicate more effectively.
- Love more deeply.
- Disagree (aka. fight) without causing permanent damage.
- Be happier and more content than you ever thought possible!
Please contact our office to see if we are a good fit to help your marriage go for the gold!
Additionally, premarital counseling does not have to be costly either. It's often less than $700 and many couples wisely ask for this as a wedding gift. Those same couples are always glad they did.
And one more thing. We often work with premarital couples from out of the area. For example, we get couples from Riverside County, Los Angeles County, Orange County and San Diego County frequently. When we do, we simply schedule 3 2-hour sessions instead of 6 1-hour sessions. We suggest to couples to make a "date day" out of it and go to Downtown Redlands for lunch or dinner or for coffee and a stroll. This is also a great way to give you and your future spouse the time and space you need to best process all of the great things you just learned in your premarital session. We also encourage couples to ride our tandem bike downtown for lunch or coffee since it is only a few blocks away. And, it’s pretty darn fun!
Please click here to download a PDF copy of our Free Wedding Planning Guide. You'll be glad you did!
Robyn Spotten
I am passionate about helping you to thrive despite any challenging or difficult circumstances you may be experiencing right now. Whether you are trying to work through some current marriage challenges, hoping to recover from a divorce, are part of a blended family trying to find your balance, or you are an individual wanting to work through any number of challenges, I would be honored to work with you and help you discover and address any issues in a healthy way. I will do my very best to create a safe, welcoming environment knowing that you are a valuable part of the process and understood without judgment. We will journey together to get you thriving again!
SYMBIS Certified Facilitator
