Tami is no longer accepting new clients at Restoration Counseling Service. If you are interested in getting help for your marriage, you may want to look into the marriage coaching work that Tami and her husband, Brad, are doing together through Tandem Marriage. You will find more information at https://TandemMarriage.com/coaching.

Tami will continue in her role as Clinical Director at RCS, as well as continuing to train both LMFTs and AMFTs in marriage counseling, including affair recovery.

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in
couples counseling. While I enjoy helping clients in many areas, I have become best known for helping couples restore their marriages, even when they had believed there was no more hope.

Marriage can be a joy, but it can also be challenging and difficult at times. There is no question that marriage limits us in many ways, but it also profoundly multiplies who we can become if we are willing to do marriage the way it is intended. To put it plainly, if you know that your marriage could be or should be more than it is, you are probably right.

Even if you have come to believe that there is no hope left in your relationship, there still is. I have witnessed couples in that same predicament turn things around. In fact, I also have over thirteen years experience with difficult issues such as
betrayal, blended families, sexual intimacy, infidelity and affairs. I have walked alongside of many hopeless spouse and have seen their marriages restored to be better than they could have ever imagined. I have heard it said that the pain from an affair is deeper than the death of a loved one! The overwhelming thoughts, fears, and feelings can be paralyzing. If this describes your current situation, you are likely reeling from questions such as:
• “Am I fool for even trying to work on our marriage?”
• “How will I ever be able to trust him (or her) again?
• “Will the all-consuming thoughts and images ever go away?”
• “How can the one who betrayed me and broke my heart also be the one to heal my broken heart?”
• “Was our relationship ever good or even real?”
• “Did he (or she) ever really love me?

These are just a few of the questions and concerns that I hear every day from couples that have experienced the devastation of an affair.

Affair recovery is quite unique and a highly specialized area of counseling. I urge you to take this very seriously when selecting a counselor. Trusting a one-size-fits-all counselor with affair recovery can make couples worse off than they were before they started counseling. As a result, there will likely be little progress in dealing with the devastation of the affair and your hope will continue to wane with each passing day that no progress is made. The journey to being restored is not an easy one, but the rewards far exceed the effort! I can honestly say that many former clients who worked hard and never gave up on the process now have thriving marriages, even better than they had before. Many restored couples have actually said, “What happened to us was devastating, but we are now better than we could have ever imagined!" I know it is hard to believe that you will ever see yourself saying those words, but I need to reassure you that it can happen if both of you are committed to the relationship.

Sexual intimacy challenges can rock a relationship at anytime. Are you newly married and surprised by the fact that your sex life is already struggling? Do you have young children and recently realized that your sex life is just not the same? Are you experiencing hormonal changes and the desire for physical intimacy "has left the building?" Maybe shame and guilt from your past is keeping you from enjoying intimacy? It is not unusual for couples to experience sexual intimacy challenges at some point. In my experience with couples struggling in this area, it is not typically a desire, passion, or function problem. Rather, it is a problem with understanding intimacy! Life's challenges can disrupt a couple’s ability to connect. This lack of connection left unchecked can lead to feelings of loneliness—as if you and your spouse no longer know each other. Let me give you hope that this can change. The two of you can have the intimacy that you have both longed for—intimacy that is filled with the kind of love and passion that every marriage should experience! As long as you both are willing to do what it takes to learn how to be truly intimate with each other, you will experience each other in a whole new way, a very intimate way!

When it comes to working with couples, families and individuals, I have more than 35 years of personal experience as a wife and over 30 years as a mother with two daughters. My own life experiences, combined with my education and training, allow me to help my clients move toward restoration and healing and improve their relationships to better than they could have ever imagined. To do so, I work very hard at helping my clients and I expect them to work hard as well. My goal is for your marriage to thrive to the point that you would not need my help anymore.
I hope you will allow me to help you work through the challenges you are facing. I am truly passionate about helping others to be all that they were created to be. Contact me here.

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P.S. Please take some time to browse the rest of this website while you're here. You will find information about myself and the services I offer as well as our other counselors and their specialties. You will also find some great book recommendations and other resources too.

My Contact Info

This contact information is provided for existing clients only. If you are a new client, you will be served quicker by filling out our online Contact/Inquiry form here. Thank you.

For existing clients, you can reach Tami by calling her at 909-800-6832. If she cannot answer her phone, please leave a message about the nature of your call and she will usually get back to you within 24 hours. New clients will always get quicker answers by calling our office at 909-255-1250 and speaking to one of our client ambassadors.
Tami's appointment schedule can be found
here. Once you have talked to our office staff and securely registered with our online appointment system, you can make and cancel your own appointments on her schedule.
For existing clients, Tami can be reached via email by clicking on this link: email Tami. If this email link does not work for you, please use our Contact Form here. Feel free to ask questions and leave some info regarding how you prefer to be contacted.

My Education & Experience

M.A., Clinical Psychology, Azusa Pacific University
 • Concentrations: Marriage and Family Therapy
B.S., Organizational Leadership, Biola University
 • Concentrations: Leadership and Biblical Studies

Community Christian College
Adjunct Professor since 2007
Psychology, College Forum

Blended Family Adjustment Issues in Children and Adolescents
Azusa Pacific University, 2006
The Apparent Lack of Spiritual Growth at the Highway Church
Biola University, 2002
Posted in University Library

Marriage Partnership, contributor
To Love, Honor, and Vacuum, featured blog
For Her (
http://forher.aleteia.org), contributor
Ready to Surrender book: Poor Communication in Marriage is a Battle You Can Win, co-author

Sandals East Valley, 6-week Marriage Workshop
Learning to Resolve Marriage Conflict Before it Kills You, 2017

Azusa Pacific University, Graduate Studies of Marriage and Family

Keynote Speaker, 2015
Affair Recovery

Hume Lake, Marriage Retreat

The Marriage God Intended
by Tami & Brad Miller (listen here), 2013

Kimberly Juniors, Redlands
Young women's self-esteem workshop, 2010

Community Bible Church
Focus on Marriage facilitator, 2010
Workshop Teacher, 2008
Meyers Briggs Personality Types

Solid Ground Church
Keynote Speaker, 2008
Marriage Can Be Murder, But It Doesn’t Have To Be:
Becoming aware of the weapons that can inflict damage to your marriage

First Baptist Church Yucaipa
Keynote Speaker, 2012
Understanding Your Teenager's World
Stopping the Power Struggle (discipline)
Keynote Speaker, 2007
Ten Ways To Cope With Grief During The Holidays

Christian Training Convention
Workshop teacher & lay counseling track organizer, 2007
Putting Together the Pieces to Build a Successful Stepfamily
Starting Out Right: Develop a Premarital Counseling Ministry

Grace EV Free Church
Keynote Speaker, 2006
Loving God, Loving Others

BRASS Convention
Workshop Teacher, 2006
Putting Together the Pieces to Build a Successful Stepfamily

The Rivers Edge
Keynote Speaker, 2005
How to Develop Courage

Skills and Qualifications
BBS Certified Marriage and Family Therapist Intern Supervisor, current
Developed and taught a twelve-week hermeneutics and spiritual gifts curriculum, 2003
Developed and taught a personal growth curriculum for women, 2000

Professional Affiliations
BBS Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT #47332
California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists
The Christian Association of Psychological Studies
Psychology Today, Verified MFT
Focus on the Family's
Christian Counselors Network

Christian Leaders, Authors, and Speakers Seminar (C.L.A.S.S.)
Prepare and Enrich Professional Counselor
RCS Expert Level Counselor, Affair Recovery

Community Service
Vice President & Patroness, Kimberly Juniors Association Board of Trustees

My Forms

Having these forms completed before your first counseling session will allow us to "get to work" sooner. If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to contact me.

If you are a new client, please complete the following forms and bring them with you to your first therapy session.
Each counseling participant will need to fill out a separate Intake Form and sign a separate Limits of Confidentiality Policy.

Client Counseling Intake Form

Limits of Confidentiality/Therapy Cancellation Policy
If you are going to be participating in therapy as a couple or a family, please have all participants read and sign our No Secrets Policy.

No Secrets Policy Form
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Authorization to Disclose Information Form

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